Spring is Here, Time to Throw Sh#t Out

Winter is the season wherein getting me to go anywhere is nearly impossible. There is whining, excuses and sometimes I just sit down on the couch and refuse to move. It isn’t pretty but it is fun. At least for me. This winter I attempted to learn to knit. I totally failed but there’s always next year. Read more

chicken soft tacos

Chicken Soft Tacos

Look at me, I’m consistently cooking! For most adults this is not a big deal but if you have been following this recipe challenge you will know that the challenge has been real. This week I made chicken soft tacos and I even cut up produce.

I know. Will miracles never cease? Read more

Corn and Chicken Sausage Chowder

Corn and Chicken Sausage Chowder

I made more soup! And this one is very good. Corn and Chicken Sausage Chowder is another frankenrecipe. I really need to start following recipes again because it is a lot of work to write out your own recipes with ingredients and directions. Here are my directions: peel, cut, boil, stir, try not to burn yourself. Just kidding, I’ll write better ones below. Read more

Keeping Track of it All

Keeping Track of it All

We hear it all the time from our friends and see it on social media. Women are frazzled and overwhelmed by everything they are expected to do. Whether you stay home full time with your children, or work outside of the home, we know your days and nights are filled with endless tasks. The work you do to care for your families is important and valuable, but often times that work gets overlooked. Read more

Lets talk about caregiving

Let’s Talk About Caregiving

Caregiving, unpaid labor, the motherhood penalty, the gender wage gap.  These are terms that get thrown around in academic journals, economic studies and angry online posts, but what do they mean and how do they affect the lives of modern women? Let’s talk about caregiving by defining what it means.   Read more

The Life-changing magic of tidying up book cover

The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up

What hasn’t been said about this book and the movement it spawned? Did The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up change my life?

No. My willingness to read the book and follow its direction helped prepare me for the divorce and subsequent move that would change my life and for that I am grateful. Genuine value resides in the ideas and methods put forth by Marie Kondo. I particularly responded to two ideas. Read more

Red chair on side of road

Loveseat Vintage

I have bought a lot of furniture from Loveseat Vintage. You have to live in Southern California to really use this service but if you do, I highly recommend it. Loveseat is an online retailer that sells second hand furniture and home accents. Right now they have a remarkable number of wicker framed mirrors. One would think they would have those mirrors for awhile. I bet in a week most of them will be sold. Read more

When you dont like to cook

When You Dont Like to Cook

The recipe challenge has taught me a lesson. I really don’t like to cook. Being in the kitchen is fun when there is ice cream or I am putting together a plate of cheese, crackers, hummus and veggies. But the rest of the time? Not so much.

I have been cooking and cleaning up the kitchen by myself since I was eleven years old. My mom started working swing shift and I took over cooking dinner 3 nights a week. My sister was a worse cook than me so she was no help. Why didn’t my dad cook? It was the 80’s and we lived in a small town. Men only cooked outdoors over an open flame. I will soon be 46. I have been cooking for…hang on, mathing…35 years. If I was going to fall in love with cooking, I think it would have happened  by now. Read more

volunteering as unpaid labor

Volunteering as Unpaid Labor

I have had the great fortune of being a stay at home mom for most of my adult life.  In my experience, one of the job expectations is that SAHMs will volunteer at their children’s school.  Lots of working moms and and an increasing number of dads spend hours volunteering as well, but as a SAHM, I felt strong internal and external pressure to contribute.  

When my kids started elementary school, I jumped in with both feet.  I scheduled regular weekly visits to the classroom where I graded tests, prepped projects, read with kids, and did crafts.  I volunteered as room mom almost every year, for each of my 3 children, I planned parties and sent out email reminders for upcoming events.  I went on field trips to the zoo and the museum. I joined the Parent/Teacher organization, went to meetings, and had welcome parties and fundraising parties at my house.  I wrote letters and went to school board meetings to advocate for programs. Read more

A Hillary kind of day

A Hillary of a Day


I have had a hell of a few years. My mom died, my marriage fell apart, my dad lived with me for a year, my kids have had some major challenges and I have a gained a significant amount of weight.

And Hillary lost. The fall out from that loss will be with this nation for generations. I wish I was overstating but I am not.

So it is not surprising that I have struggled with depression. Read more